How to Stop People-Pleasing—Saturday Self-Care Check-In
Saturday Self-Care Check-in:
Part of self-care is learning how to disappoint other people. Why?
Because many of us deprioritize our self-care in order to be of service to others. We give more. We try to fix everything. And we (real talk) try to control others’ emotions by making everything just-so.
Finally, we do all of this at the expense of our self-care. We don’t fill our own cups, so we’re pouring from an empty vessel.
Ultimately, that leads to extreme burnout. So, how do we get out of our people-pleasing cycle?
We see why we people please in the first place.
And we remember that instead of feeling like we’re responsible for fixing everything, we can decide to give generously and freely (without expectation of anything in return). When we offer only what we genuinely want to give, something shifts.
Once we start to unwind those people-pleasing tendencies, then we can start having more honest conversations and deeper self-care.