Collective Care is a written interview series with people who are changing the world. Most often, these folks are working at the intersection of creative, healing, and/or activist work.
I’m in love with the idea of amplifying the work (and self-care practices) of people who are building a more compassionate world. In this series, I get to chat with people who inspire me like whoa.
Today we get to meet Tami Hackbarth!
Tami is a kindred spirit, and it’s deeply comforting for me to know that there are powerful women like her in the world busting myths about self-care. (Hint: it’s not selfish!) I also so appreciate her perspective on that moment of “Me too!” recognition. 🙂
Tami, take it away…
How are you changing the world?
(What is your change-making, healing, and/or creative work? This might be paid, unpaid or a combination.)
I teach 100% guilt-free self-care to busy women who want to drop the story that self-care is selfish and start feeling powerful and strong as the leader in their own life.
I am also mama to a six year old super hero who has inspired me to take care of my business so that I don’t end up handing her my baggage.
What challenges your heart in that journey?
So many women are stuck in the story that either self-care is selfish or they are somehow broken and can’t be fixed. What most don’t realize is that self-sacrifice is not helping them or their families. And everyone has their thing. And we can all be whole – if we stop running from whatever we think is so terrible about ourselves. Self-acceptance is key.
What inspires you to keep going?
I want her to live in a world where women are free to be the superstars they were born to be.
How do you support yourself or tend to yourself and your heart in that process?
What nourishes and replenishes you?
My self-care includes a self-compassion practice, a gratitude practice, a meditation practice and a restorative yoga practice among others. I love being in community with like-minded women and the last few years solitude has also been my friend. I spend a lot of time reading for pleasure, cooking plant based meals to nourish my body and writing to know how I feel about things.
How do you experience care within community?
How do others support you in your journey and practice?
Listening to other women’s stories and experiencing that moment of “YES, not just me!” – even if it terrible, at least I am not alone. There really is strength in sharing stories and supporting each other’s growth.
What’s your best piece of advice you have for people who want to make a difference?
Take care of your business first – all those loose ends you hope no one notices – take care of them. Whatever you dread, take care of it: make the phone call, end the relationship, mend the relationship, stop hurting yourself, find allies, quit your job, get divorced, figure it out. Once you feel whole – when you stop running from all those things you are trying to keep a secret, you will know what your place is in the world and you will be in a much better place to help others.
Paint us a picture of the more compassionate world and future you imagine.
When we all start taking care of our business, we move through the world as complete beings. When we fill our ourselves with what we need: love, compassion, nourishment, connection, sleep, rest, play – when we tend to ourselves deeply and completely. then we are able to be of service to others. When bad things happen (because they do) we will be able to tend to those in need of help without losing ourselves. In this world, the children learn this by watching their parents. It is completely natural for all the adults to tend to themselves in order to best tend for their kids. The resentment and culture of scarcity disappear because we all feel whole at last.
I teach 100% guilt-free self-care to women who want to drop the story that self-care is selfish so they can start feeling powerful and strong as the leader in their own lives.
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