Become Your Own Best Advocate

June 12, 2018


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In a world…

In a world that o en tries to teach us that we are disposable, caring for ourselves can seem radical. Every act of self-care is a declaration that we are worthy and deserving and enough. Every act of self-care is an act of fierce compassion. I still believe this.

And yet, self-care has its limits.
Because external practices cannot address what is internally misaligned.

A disclaimer

In case you hope to find a set of complete thoughts here, polished to ideological perfection and wrapped in shiny paper, I will now promptly disappoint you. You won’t find any of that here.

This is not self-deprecating; this is the spirit of this work in action. This is permission to be human, imperfect and vulnerable.

What I offer here is not the final say, but a weather report. This is a snapshot of the current climate and, using the best data available to me, a glimpse at what comes next. This is what I know to be true; what my experience tells me; and what I believe is possible.

What’s possible

• A more equitable and empathetic world.
• More people who are empowered to take fiercely compassionate action.
• A life practice that honors our complete humanity.
• Well-being that is not contingent on health or morality.
• Value and worth that are untethered from accomplishment and productivity.

You still here? Let’s go.

What’s next

What I know — a er working with hundreds of students (and being on this journey in my own life) — is that sometimes we have to get scrappy. We have treat ourselves as sacred, but we also need to defend that sacredness with fierce compassion.

We need to become advocates for ourselves with the same devotion with which we advocate for others. This requires internal alignment that heals us at the root — not just on the surface.

While self-care and self-compassion are remarkably powerful, self-advocacy – taking action in alignment with our truth and our needs – is the scary, but really juicy stuff.

When we adopt a spirit of self-advocacy, we reclaim our power: in relationships, in work, in life.

In practice, this looks like creating rock-solid boundaries, meeting our deepest needs, and learning to use our voices in a way that people will hear. It’s speaking confidently from our hard-won experience. And it’s about owning our role as leaders in our families, communities, and world.

Self-advocacy doesn’t necessarily look like self-care. It isn’t something you’d necessarily put on Instagram. Yes, self-care is beautiful, and that seed of care is necessary, but it’s just the beginning.

Advocating for others often comes easily.

Learning to advocate for yourself is the advanced work.

I know from talking to thousands of rebellious humans that it’s easy to take up a cause or serve others. Learning to advocate for yourself is the advanced work.

Going beyond self-care to self-advocacy can feel like a big leap. It takes insight, courage, and plenty of action.

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